Women Reveal How They Would React To Finding Out Their Partners Have Been Using 'Alpha' Dating Strategies On Them

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Jun 28, 2022 5:00 PM EDT

Plenty of men out there don't feel secure being themselves when it comes to approaching women, so they resort to using different tactics that they read in self-help books or random corners of the internet. We love men who seek to improve themselves, but we wish they would look in better places, specifically places that don't encourage manipulating women. They're all trying their best to become the ultimate alpha male on the dating playing field by following misguided advice they read online, but it ends up coming off as cringe rather than cool. They really believe they're playing it cool too, but most women could see right through it. In today's AskWomen post, women discussed how they would react if they found out their partner was using alpha dating strategies on them. Spoiler alert: they wouldn't be so cool about it. Many of them claimed that they would be able to figure it out on their own. Scroll down for all the responses on the thread. 

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  • 01
    Font - r/AskWomen Posted by u/ArtfulSlap36 20 hours ago How would you feel if you found out that your partner had been using "alpha" dating/relationship strategies on you the entire time?
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    They could have just tried being themselves, so we're officially surprised. 

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    Human body - Elzath911 20 hr. ago I'd leave. I'm not one to enjoy being manipulated into a relationship. But that's just me.
    via u/Elzath911

    Boy, bye! 

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    Font - iusedtobefamous1892 20 hr. ago 2 I would wonder when "alpha strategies" became just being a genuine and caring person.
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    Font - searedscallops. 19 hr. ago to How would I NOT already know? I'm not an idiot.
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    Font - nevertruly 20 hr. ago. edited 20 hr. ago 2 Single. If someone is actively trying to manipulate me and lying to me, they don't respect me and aren't a safe partner to be around. I'm not staying with someone like that. Any feelings or respect I had for them would evaporate the instant I realized they were dishonest and manipulative. If they aren't a genuine, honest, and caring human, they don't qualify for a relationship with me.
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    Font - ValkyrieOfBlade 20 hr. ago I'm really good at seeing that ahead of time but if it somehow went under my radar I would leave as soon as I noticed.
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    Font - CatrionaShadowleaf 18 hr. ago 2 That stuff is very, very noticeable immediately and it's very unlikely I would miss it throughout years. Men who use these tactics think they can mask it with their charm and lying capabilities but if they had either of those things they wouldn't need these tactics at all.
    via u/CatrionaShadowleaf
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    Human body - Sage--Fox 19 hr. ago I think all my attraction would immediately dry up because that's pathetic.
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    Rectangle - peppermind 19 hr. ago 2 I'd dump the manipulative creep and spend some time pondering why I fell for those tactics in the first place.
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    Font - sunsetgal24 19 hr. ago I highly, highly doubt that would ever happen to me - I like to get to know people's personal opinions on a lot of stuff before I'd even consider dating them. A belief in that kind of system would bleed through and get noticeable way before I'd ever agree to date them.
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    Font - Andwaee 19 hr. ago Dumped the moment I noticed it, blocked and removed from all social circles the moment he confirmed it. No way I'm letting any girl friends have to deal with the direction he's going-he can spiral all on his own.
    via u/Andwaee
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    Font - mistypee 18 hr. ago 오 Normally that stuff is blatantly obvious before you even get to the first date. If I somehow missed it, I would be kicking myself for being an idiot. After immediately dumping the guy, of course.
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    Font - Impressive-Bench9223 - 19 hr. ago Depends on how I found out. If they confessed to doing so, for example because they were insecure and thought it'd help them get into a relationship, then we could perhaps move past it. Though I'd have to believe they actually see me as an equal. Most of this kinda dating "advice" is hella misogynistic.
    via u/Impressive-Bench9223
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    Font - Anxious Carpenter807 17 hr. ago Assuming this is the standard PUA stuff, I'm not really into "macho" men, so I probably wouldn't be attracted to them in the first place. If they somehow managed to fly under the radar, I'd get out as soon as I found out.
    via u/Anxious_Carpenter807
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    Font - Sraniale 13 hr. ago That's just low. I never understood the point of using tactics. Just be yourself, relationships are complicated enough. I had a guy try negging me, shit just baffled me. I'm not even sure if that's something he read on the internet or just some shit he thought he would try but it was just awful. Like yes please make me feel bad about myself? Big nope.
    via u/Sraniale

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